| Save Your Marriage Through Active Listening |
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| Written by Stan J. Van Sant |
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Could active listening be the thing to save your marriage? Well, let's find out. But first, what, exactly, is active listening? Think back to the last conversation you had. What was going on? Did you listen or were you more occupied with other things at the same time? Did the conversation have your total attention or did your mind drift off somewhere else? If it did, you could benefit from learning the technique of active listening. You participate in the active listening when you weed out all the distraction and bring your galloping attention into focus and really start to listen with all of senses. You don't allow any interruptions to take place, but give all of awareness to your partner. Easy? Far from it. What's the big fuss about active listening? When troubles in marriage begin, you'll do just about anything - if you care enough - to solve the problem. Active listening is a skill that goes beyond the usual confines of a marriage, however. The benefits are huge and could impact your entire life. Active listening allow you to establish a bond it a relationship where your partner feels heard, really heard. And, once your partner sees you doing something differently the door opens for them as well. A whole new relationship for you both could then be created. Listen more, talk less Everyone likes to talk, express and be heard. But it is skill to listen. And, actually, I believe it be a mark of greatness. And when you listen to understand, really understand, then people flock to you in droves. Who doesn't want to be heard? The next time you find yourself in an intense confrontational situation, sit back and remind yourself to listen and see if it doesn't make a difference. How to do it Stay away from attempting to communicate when you are preoccupied. Don't talk with them when you are watching television. The stereo shouldn't be on. Put the phone down and stop the text messaging. Give them your all. Don't the two of you deserve that, doesn't our relationship? And, if you dare to sprinkle on a little extra spice to your new found active listening skills, try utilizing the extra bonus of active sharing. Dig up some pleasant memory you both share. Doesn't have to be recent. Any time the two of were close and in contact. A leisurely walk you took. Your child's play. A sporting event you attended. Bring those two components together, and not only do you have a chance to save your marriage, you have chance to live a better quality of life. About the Author: Learn more about Secret Keys to Surviving Infidelity. Stop by Stan J. Van Sant's site where you can find out about How to Save Your Marriage. Kindly provided by 4Girls.dk You are welcome to use this article on your own website, if you include this link. |