| Get Your Ex Back With The Power of Emotional Logic |
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| Written by John Laney |
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You've broken up with your ex. A little time has passed and now you want to get your ex back. What relationship advice can help? When breaking up, what happens for everyone is that our feelings of closeness and connection with our partner get replaced by emotions like anger or betrayal. This is why we fight and break up. It's just what happens to couples the world over. However, after a few days or weeks of being broken up you calmed down. You started to miss your ex. Your angry or hurt feelings are getting replaced by other feelings. Notice this truth about emotions: intense feelings like anger change, they usually soften over time! You know this from your own life. You've been sad about some things and the sadness goes away after a while, doesn't it? You get really angry as somebody, yet even a day later you aren't as mad. That's how emotions work. They change. Good ones, bad ones, they will shift. This is useful Emotional Logic to pay attention to. Emotions shift, they change all the time for all of us. Now that youve broken up and you want your ex back, you have experienced this first hand. During the break up, you were mad or hurt. Now, you notice feelings of longing and desire return. Youd like to give your relationship another chance. This may seem like Im stating the obvious, but there is a very important point here to notice about emotions. They change. Some things happen that obviously can cause unpleasant emotions to stick around. Depending on what caused the break up, they probably have lots of feelings of hurt or anger that are still sticking around. Lets say you cheated on your ex. This is a form of emotional betrayal that brings up strong feelings in people, as you know firsthand - or can imagine. Even though it may have been a few weeks, your ex may still be filled with strong feelings of distrust and shame and sadness. How then can you use Emotional Logic to help you to get back with your ex? One simple important thing you can do is to help them to get their negative feelings released and resolved. Help them to "vent" these feelings and get them off their chest. You did this by asking them in varioius ways how they feel about whatever you did that triggered the break up. "How are you feeling about what happened?" Then be silent and let them start to vent or spill their hurt feelings out. Do not argue with them or try to explain yourself endlessly. Let them do all the talking, you listen. That way, you avoid more arguing. Make them right, whatever they say, for just these few minutes. After a short time of venting, your ex will often begin to let go of the charge they have about what happened. Then, they can begin to start to feel better about you! Theres much more to it, but helping your ex to get things off their chest can be an important step in moving past the break up. Since we all know feelings change, you want their bad emotions around you to change and venting helps this to happen! About The Author: You can learn more about howto get your ex back in a book about Get Your Ex Back In One Day. John Laney teaches relationship skills and you can get a free course here on Free Relationship Advice Vital Tips. Kindly provided by 4Girls.dk You are welcome to use this article on your own website, if you include this link. |