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Written by Antonio MacGynn   
Phillip is frustrated. After working hard all day, he feels his Barbara, his wife, doesn't give him enough attention when he gets home. But Barbara is tired from taking care of their children all day, and needs Phil to show her some special attention. This has gone on for some years and now they wonder if they will ever be happy.
by AntonioMacGynn


Phillip is frustrated. After working hard all day, he feels his Barbara, his wife, doesn't give him enough attention when he gets home. But Barbara is tired from taking care of their children all day, and needs Phil to show her some special attention. This has gone on for some years and now they wonder if they will ever be happy.

One partner cannot make a relationship. If the relationship is to be saved, both partners must work at it equally. If one partner decides to opt out, the other partner cannot save the relationship alone.

Sadly, some relationships last strictly for convenience, or for the sake of the children. The problem is, these relationships are not happy. If you want to know how to save the relationship, then you must learn that both partners need to be committed to making adjustments.

Now you need to focus on the real problems in the relationship. Problems create many symptoms, and it is easy to think the symptoms are the problem. But that is not the case.

For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups. In truth, the affair is a symptom of a deeper problem. For instance, a lack of true intimacy can lead to a straying spouse. While most people look at the affair as the problem, the underlying cause of the affair was the lack of intimacy in the primary relationship. If you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you might be able to keep another affair from starting through the use of guilt, but another problem (for instance pornography) could pop up because you havent dealt with the core issue.

Talk about the core problems together. Hold hands while you talk. Don't make accusations or try to place blame. If both partners realize the purpose of your talks is to strengthen the relationship, there is no need for hurt feelings.

Once you have detailed the problems in your relationship, create an action plan to solve them. Then, take concrete steps on your action plan. If you dont spend time together like you used to, plan a date night every week. Take turns coming up with creative ways to spend an evening together each Wednesday. If not communicating is the problem, commit to spending 20 minutes before going to bed just talking to one another. And, then do it.

Saving a relationship is a process. At times you may feel frustrated, but if you work at it, every time you take a backwards step you will notice you first took two steps forward. It will take patience. Be quick to apologize but slow to blame. You will cry along the way, but you should laugh along the journey, too. This is your relationship! Save it!

About The Author:

A. MacGynn writes for About the Family, a blog dedicated to family matters. Most broken relationships can be repaired if the subconscious motivators that get unite couples are understood. Sadly, most individuals taking steps to repair the relationship instinctively do exactly the wrong thing. Avoid these wrong steps and you can Repair the Relationship

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