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Wise Sayings To Help You Move Past Infidelity PDF Print E-mail
Written by Alex Archer   
Years have passed, but some sayings have remained. Despite changes in society and culture, these adages can still ring true in our lives. Six old and wise sayings should come to mind when you think about moving past infidelity in your relationship.
by AlexArcher


Years have passed, but some sayings have remained. Despite changes in society and culture, these adages can still ring true in our lives. Six old and wise sayings should come to mind when you think about moving past infidelity in your relationship.

You cannot see the forest because of the trees. This adage applies to how you feel when you first find out about the infidelity. The infidelity becomes the only thing we can focus on. We only see our hurt, anger and pain, not why the situation happened. Try to step back from the situation and see it as a whole. Look at what happened in and around the situation rather than just at the infidelity itself.

Learn from your experiences. Once you have viewed the entire forest, begin the process of learning from your experience. You may have pretended you knew how you would feel in adult situations as a child, but you never know how you will truly feel until you are in the situation. Come to an agreement with your partner that this was a one time situation and put it behind you so you can move forward together.

A penny for your thoughts. Every self-help book, every so-called expert on TV, and every marriage counselor will tell you, because it's true, there is no marriage, no relationship, without honest communication. It is the key to everything. Not just issues of infidelity but all issues. The hardest part is communicating something that you know will upset the other person, even hurt them. But letting it fester inside of you just makes it worse when it finally comes out, and it always does.

It is not you, it is me. Of all of the sayings mentioned here, this is the only one that is a warning. Do NOT use this saying in healing from infidelity. The blame does not all fall on one person. Even if you were cheated on, take some responsibility for the situation. It is always easier to blame the other person, but if you split the fault and realize what each of you did to contribute to the event, you will be able to move on to a brighter future.

It may be simple, but it is not easy. Planning a wedding is simple. Make some phone calls, send some invitations, and have a ceremony. The marriage that follows will prove to you just how simple that ceremony was. A marriage is a full-time job where you never get a vacation. You must constantly work to make your relationship thrive. Learn early how to communicate, how to bend without breaking, and how to forgive if you want your marriage to succeed.

Time heals all hurts. This very well might be the oldest cliche in the book, but it is the most applicable in this situation. Once you are able to forgive each other for the pain inflicted, you can begin to heal. Let time help you move on to bigger and better things together. Let this situation fade into the distance as you grow together in life.

These adages, while appropriate for adultery, are also applicable in the rest of life. They will help your marriage survive and thrive, even after infidelity. Hopefully these adages will stay with you if you ever are forced to experience adultery.

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