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Self-Love is Unconditional Love PDF Print E-mail
Written by Kerri Kannan   
We are raised with notions that love has something to do with how we express ourselves toward others. We think that when we love someone, we will compromise and make them feel better and will sacrifice ourselves and do anything for the object of our adoration. While this is true to a point, it is backwards. You can not love another until you fully embrace yourself.
by KerriKannan


We are raised with notions that love has something to do with how we express ourselves toward others. We think that when we love someone, we will compromise and make them feel better and will sacrifice ourselves and do anything for the object of our adoration. While this is true to a point, it is backwards. You can not love another until you fully embrace yourself.

The notion that you must cater to the needs of others in the name of love creates internal conflict and it is really the furthest thing from love. We are taught that we must strive to be good but that implies that we are inherently bad or that there is something we must achieve or do in order to be good and loved. We set ourselves up for lives of unhappiness and self-sacrifice feeling that love comes from an external source and to attain it, we must sacrifice our own happiness to serve others.

When we can embrace the totality of who we are, embrace our moods and ourselves, exactly as we show up, (whether we like the characteristics or not) we then allow ourselves to be Self-loving. We cant help whether we feel anger or love in any moment, and we cant control other people and their perceptions. All we can do is surrender control and accept ourselves and what we feel in any given moment, whether that feeling is of wanting to kiss someone or whether you want to kick them. We dont have to act on our feelings, we merely need to accept that we feel it and once you accept it, then we can change it if we desire. we cant change something you are unwilling to see.

When we can accept our feelings in any given moment, we eventually find that we are happy to be ourselves and can remain steadfastly true to ourselves by honoring our feelings. When we can be true to ourselves and other peoples opinions hold no power over us, then we can truly love without condition. We find that our own approval and acceptance is the only validation you need. Little by little, our attachments to how other people respond to us melt away. We find that it makes no difference whether our love is reciprocated; we love because we feel love for ourselves and nobody can take that away from us. We find that it feels wonderful to share ourselves and our love with whoever will receive it, in whatever form it shows up; whether it is helping a stranger with groceries or being present with our kids or giving ourselves over to our lover fully and completely.

When we release the need for external approval, we find our own validation and approval is the only one we need. We find that our love is expressed in everything you do and you free yourself to be completely and steadfastly true to ourselves. We also find that in loving the Self, we cant help but love every aspect of our lives because we see and express our own Love of Self in everything we do.

About the Author:

Kerri Kannan is a Self-Love Mentor, Inspirational Speaker and author of Uncovering the Divine Within - a Journey of Self-Love. She dedicates her life to helping people release limiting thoughts and learn to create lives of Effortless Fulfillment. Visit her website to register for one of her numerous FREE transformational programs, Schedule a Consultation, or have her Speak at your Next Function.

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